CJ left this comment:
Obsessed with sports... a blogger... a Syracuse grad... if you weren't a liberal, you might be perfect! ;-)
that got me thinking -
first of all, it's the liberalness that puts me over the top!
secondly, what is it with guys and girls who like sports? Girls who enjoy sports aren't all that rare. We're not on the endangered species list or anything like that. But the fact is that this is the third time in a few months something like this has been said to me (though CJ's is more substantive, the others merely revolved around sports alone). Why does it seem to amaze men (ok, maybe only men I come across, who knows) when a woman likes sports? Why do I have to endure scenes like the following:
I'm sitting at my desk, minding my own business when a guy I only sort of know stops by. Seeing the Red Sox schedule in my cube he begins discussing the current status of Red Sox Nation. I answer in turn, telling him what I think, saying what I've seen. His response? "Wow! You really know what you are talking about." Already my eyebrows are raised. Why wouldn't I know what I'm talking about? Don't take that surprised tone with me. As I'm inhaling to counter with my response, trying to cut him off before what I can only assume will be a stupid guy comment, but I'm too slow and he continues: "Do you have a boyfriend or husband because you really do seem to know a lot about this". I physically swivel around in my chair with what I can only imagine to be a completely enraged expression. "What is that supossed to mean?" I barked back at him. The shrillness of my tone seemed to have stopped the air circulation and the surrounding cubes grew quiet. "Women like sports just as much as men... " I launch into my rant (women don't like sports because men do, women don't like sports to appear appealing to men and women don't need men to explain sports to them), but he has literally thrown his hands up in front of him as if to protect himself from getting hit. "Wo.. wo.. wo.." he said, cutting me off. "What I meant to say was: you'd be the perfect girlfriend or wife because you like sports." I merely glare at him for the patheticness of this response and turn back to my computer and ignore him.
What does that mean? I'd be the perfect girlfriend/wife because I like sports. That is the only criteria? This is insulting to both women AND men. And I'm still back to why men find women sports affectionado's so surprising. Hmmm... guys, let me know why you think this is, please. Because left to my own devices, I'm going to think that men believe if they find someone who likes sports, they will be able to spend every free moment watching/discussing sports and they'll never have to do anything in a relationship. Oh my god.. that's it, isn't it? aaaahhhhh.. In that case, you will most likely never find what you are looking for, guys.
So for now, I'll just leave you with the third reference to my perfection in recent months:
he: A girl who likes basketball and baseball?! You are like the perfect girl.
me: I hate golf and I expect the toilet seat to always be down.-----
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What a tool! "The perfect wife or girlfriend??" It must be nice to work with such...*enlightened* people.
Posted by Chris | October 26, 2006 8:15 PM
Posted on October 26, 2006 20:15
URL: http://www.upforanything.net
Hmmm... don't know if it's enough proof for you, but check the comments over at Up For Anything for "Like Night and Day(vid)". Chippy is the ex.. and amazingly, we're still friends.
Posted by CJ | October 26, 2006 8:15 PM
Posted on October 26, 2006 20:15
URL: http://weblogs.livingreflections.com
oh, CJ.. I wasn't offended by your comment. Yours was actually the best one because it took a more well rounded view. Your comment just reminded me of these other dumb comments that revolved solely around sports. I completely agree with you that having things in common is important, my point was why is it so shocking to guys that one of those things can be sports?
And proof of you dating a liberal will have to be supplied, because that seems like a highly unlikely tale.
Posted by amy | October 26, 2006 8:15 PM
Posted on October 26, 2006 20:15
URL: http://www.upforanything.net
Hmmm... anyone got the lid to the can of worms I opened?
My comment was very tongue-in-cheek, and my sister would kick my ass for saying what I did. She's a huge sports fan, always has been, and is a much bigger sports fan than her husband.
How bout this, though... the last two women I went out with were not sports fans. They appreciated my love of sports, but frowned upon a perceived obsessiveness. I don't think it's obsessive, and I don't think you would either. Would that make you a better "girlfriend" than them? Not necessarily. (FYI: One of those girlfriends was a liberal :-) We didn't discuss politics much!)
I think what guys are trying to say is that compatability is important. I would be more compatable with someone who is a sports fan. Does that mean being a sports fan is a must? Of course not.
In conclusion, being a sports fan isn't a qualification for the "perfect" woman. Especially considering there really aren't many "perfect" men or women out there. But being a big sports fan is a plus, and in many cases can make a woman even sexier in my eyes!!
Have I continued to offend?
Posted by CJ | October 26, 2006 8:15 PM
Posted on October 26, 2006 20:15